While I was in Colorado visiting with some church leaders about the start of a new church. I had the great opportunity to be able to go have lunch with a new friend in an old and very important place. You see we met at Senor Ric’s it was the place where 18 years ago I proposed to Michelle to marry me. Now some of you may be thinking wow Scott you are a big spender, doesn’t look like much. Well, I was twenty two and that was where Michelle told me it was her favorite place to eat. Had nothing to do with being fancy it had to do with it being the place that they lady I liked a lot love to go too.
I remember that after I had gone and asked her dad if it was OK to marry Michelle that I had to go and get the ring that she had already told me that she liked. I just want to remind then young guys out there that yes you need to ask the father to marry the daughter. (My thought is that if you don’t have the guts to ask for her hand in marriage then as a father how do I know that you are going to have the guts to stand up for her.)
I began to prepare for the evening by asking Michelle if she wanted to go out and get some food. I told her that I would take her to her favorite place, “Senor Ric’s”. She was way excited and so was I, so excited that I began to sweat just thinking about the coming evening. So I bought some flowers in an arrangement to place the ring case in for her to receive from the waiter as he came to the table with our drinks. I took the flowers and the ring to the restaurant that afternoon with the understanding that if they were not there when I showed up with my girl that someone would surely would get to meet Jesus personally face to face.
We made it to the restaurant and we were sat down at the table next to the kitchen. With the waiter that knew what was going on. Michelle and I ordered our drinks and the waiter went on his way. I just remember that as he walked away to get our drinks I remember that my mouth went dry real fast and my heart began to beat louder then it had ever before. I also remember seeing all of the kitchen staff and other staff of the restaurant begin to be hanging around the door. Then there it was the tray with the flowers and the ring. The waiter walked out and placed it on the table in front of Michelle and I sat there caught in the moment watching her face search the flowers and with surprise notice the open box with the ring in it. I then made my way to one knew next to the table and grabbed her by the hand and asked her to marry me. I have to say that in that moment between the question and the answer I felt my heart almost stop and wait just like the kitchen staff that were standing around the room. I will never ever forget the joy and warmth that I experienced when she said, “Yes”. It was in that moment that I even remember the couple next to us in the other table stop and watch as I grabbed her hand and placed the ring on her finger. I was so excited that I almost didn’t notice the tears in her eyes and the cheer that we received from the room and that group of kitchen staff that had waited as long as I had that day to hear her answer.
It was that day I remember thinking that this is the beginning to a new, exciting, and amazing phase in my life. I have not be disappointed one bit! Having Michelle on loan to me as my wife is amazing and I will never be able to express to her how much that one word of “Yes” ever meant to me.
Think about the places that you have made decisions in or places that have great meaning to your walk with those in your life, or in your walk with Christ and know that there can always be new memories in old places.
Over the last couple of weeks I have been doing a lot of talking to both young men and young women about love, sex, relationship, and romance. What I am learning is that many of them especially the young men think that romance is just what happens between the sheets. That either from what they have seen or heard that you only need to romance someone until you get married or I have even heard, “that is the woman’s job”. When I heard that I looked at the young man that said that and asked him “So when was the last time you were on date?”. He just looked at me. I replied to the blank stare with “That is what I thought.”
What I want to shout from the roof tops is Men need to quit trying to be what the world sees as a macho manly man and become a real man. As I have been reading through the Bible and looking at Song of Songs and hearing the romance that is going on between a man and a women I really see how stupid we as men have become when it comes to romance. I mean Solomon the king is rich, powerful, wise, and his romantic. I think that in my book I want to hear what he says over Dr. Phil. He talks about romance, about being in love, about the beauty of his bride, he even goes as far as writing a Song. The title of the book is “Song of Songs”. What have you done lately for your wife that had nothing to do with a holiday that was probably created by a love starved wife because her husband was a moron and did not how to romance her. So if there was a holiday he might be guilted in to doing something.
Men, I use that term because I want to talk to the men that really want to love there wife. Men go and get her flowers if that is what she likes, go into the kitchen and clean up after dinner in stead of putting your fat butt on the couch. Make sure that she is satisfied and taken care of before yourself. Because I want to remind you that if you can do that then most likely she won’t have any reason to want someone else. (There is more about that later to come.)
What have you done romantically lately that has nothing to do with Valentine’s day or because you felt guilty?