One of the things that I am really focusing on this year is reading over 30 books so that I can continue to grow as a leader, a husband, a father, and as a follower of Jesus. One of those books that I have been able to read this year is “The Power of Habit: Why we do what we do in life and in business.” The main theme through out of this book is seeing how you can learn to develop new habits in your life and business by knowing the cue that leads to a routine that leads you to a reward. This is called the “The Habit Loop” and the reason that we develop the habit loop is because our brains are always trying to find ways that will save time and energy. Here is a quote from the book, “Habits, scientists say emerge because the brain is constantly looking for ways to save effort. Left to its own devices, the brain will try to make almost any routine into a habit, because habits allow our minds to ramp down more often.”
So for me I have taken to getting up early and working out first thing in the morning. This is definitely something that I have to use the habit loop for because I HATE mornings, I have always been the late night person. I also am making sure that working out is a focus so that I can stay healthy for my wife and my family. What are some areas that you could use the habit loop to grow in your life this year?
Today as a husband I am so encouraged by the woman that I am able to call my wife. As we both seek the Lord in the choices and directions of life the encouragement that I receive from her is incredible. I mean it is so awesome to know that I have a partner that is really seeking the Lord in all that we do. I mean last night as I am watching a football game I noticed that Michelle was not around and so I thought the loving thing is I am going to find her and mess with her (I love doing this with all my family). But as I opened the bedroom door for a sneak attack I found her curled up on the bed with her devotional book, bible, journal, and IPOD with worship music going. It is such a humbling experience to see my wife in a position of humility before the Lord. I had to just stop and enjoy the moment has a husband as well as a fellow traveler with Jesus. She looked at me and asked if she could use my IPOD for the worship music that I had on my playlist, I ran to get it so she could continue with her time. I went back to the game not praying for who I wanted to win but thanking the Lord for the wife he has loaned to me.
Proverbs 12:4 (NLT) a worthy wife is her husband’s joy and crown; a shameful wife saps his strength.
This morning I spent time with just her and I praying. If you want to be a real man of faith, a real husband then pray with your wife, because there is no hiding who you are before her and the Lord when you place all of life at the feet of Jesus. Ladies you have no idea the power that your encouragement and prayers bring to a husband, I could not be the man that I am today with out the wife that I have been loaned and the prayer that she places before the Lord for me. When I know that she is behind me and going before the Lord for me, watch out!
Take the time to pray with your wife!