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Living In My Dad’s Hand Me Downs

dad-helping-son-tie-a-necktieWhen you are growing up as the oldest of four kids there is no one to give you hand me downs, except your dad.  Now if you don’t know what hand me downs are then you were either an only child or your family had enough money to make sure you had lots of new clothes.  So this is not going to be a story that you can probably relate to when it comes to clothing.  But by the time we get done here you are going to see that you are probably dealing with some hand me downs when it comes to your life.

Being the oldest of three boys and one girl and growing at a rapid rate around 8th grade I needed a lot of clothes quickly.  You see I grew 9 inches in one year.  So that meant I was constantly wearing pants that were called high waters. (If you don’t know what that means then we can’t be friends.)  My mom used to joke that they were just the right length when I left the house in the morning but by the end of the day, they were too short.  The problem with growing that fast is that it gets really expensive and being the oldest of four we were not in a place to buy jeans every other day.  That meant I was getting dad’s hand me down clothes.  Which you might think that can’t be that bad.  Well if at the time your waist is a size twenty and your dads is a size thirty then it can cause some issues.  But, you belt up and you keep going.  Now here is what you might not know about wearing your dad’s hand me downs, it makes you feel grown-up.  I mean to a 13-year-old boy you are now wearing man’s pants.  They aren’t the kiddie pants in the boy’s area of the store they come from Men’s clothing, you see what I mean?  Yes, they didn’t fit you perfect but, you knew that at that moment you were wearing man’s pants.

Flash forward to now.  I am no longer wearing my dad’s hand me down clothes. I am a dad of my own with a son and yes at one point in his life I gave him one of my shirts or even a pair of pants.  And yes the same was true for him as it was for me when I was his age the waistline was for sure not the same.  But I can remember as clear as a bell my son looking at me and saying, “Thanks Dad I really feel like a man wearing this.”

Here is the problem for many of the men that are around today.  They never had that moment with their dad where they got to wear his hand me downs. Maybe it’s because their dad was no longer alive, maybe it was because their dad was in prison, or just maybe it was because their dad chose to not be in their life.  No matter what the reason that little moment in life where you were able to see yourself develop into a man never happened and it is something that you have been thinking about with each day. Who knows you may be a dad now and you are trying to figure out what you are going to do for your son when the time comes in his life where he is starting to become a man.

Here is my encouragement to you. Don’t buy him a shield, don’t buy him a trip up some mountain, or create some party that lets him know he is becoming a man.  Just grab a shirt, grab a pair of pants, take him one of your ties and let him wear them for a little while.  Because the truth of the matter is that he is going to probably outgrow your stuff anyway. I am not necessarily saying he is going become a bigger man then you physically. (It could happen.) But he is going to outgrow what you have given him and that is ok because that means he is becoming his own man.  Which is what you want so that someday when you see him as a dad he is going to let your grandson live in his hand me downs.

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Decide to be Disciplined (Part Two)

disciplineAt the beginning of this year I made the decision to be disciplined when it comes to the important areas of my life.  I made the decision to be disciplined when it comes to my health, my life with Jesus, my wife, my leadership and my writing. (at least this writing) I had come to the realization that over the last couple of years that I had allowed stress, laziness, and other people’s priorities to take over how I was living life.  It is amazing how easy this can happen, especially when you have not decided to be disciplined with your life.

So when it comes to the area of my life with Jesus I have decided to make journaling, prayer, and reading disciplined. The goal that I have set is to make sure that I do this at least 5 times a week. My health and my ability to grow in my relationship with Jesus have been connected for me when it comes to being disciplined.  Once I have completed my workout in the morning I immediately get out my journal and my bible with a cup of coffee (we call it Christian Crack) then take a seat at the dinner table at my house.  Sometime it is alone, but most of the time it is with people walking around me.  So I will either put in my ear buds or just gently remind people at what I am trying to do.  Maybe for you having your time with Jesus needs to be ultimate quiet I get that, but the more that you can show and share what you are doing is a good thing. (set the pace for the family)

What I then do is write about the previous day and how I was able to see God at work in me and around me.  After that I write out my prayers. I know that for some people that this would be really strange, but for me it keeps me focused (I also like to go back and read them to see how God is at work).  I make it at least two pages in my journal, why I don’t know I just liked it.  Then I take the next page and write out things that jump out at me while I am reading the bible.  Many of those things I read that day I then write out so that I can read them over and over through out the day.  This is the way that I do it, it is a way not the way.  Maybe for you reading off your phone is good for you.  Maybe for you journalling online is good for you.  Maybe for you praying away for minutes maybe hours is good for you.  No matter what way you do it you need to make the decision to be disciplined.

What are the ways that you can make your life with Jesus lived out?  What are the ways that you are making this time with Jesus a discipline?


Decide to be Disciplined

disciplineAt the beginning of this year I made the decision to be disciplined when it comes to the important areas of my life.  I made the decision to be disciplined when it comes to my health, my life with Jesus, my wife, my leadership and my writing. (at least this writing) I had come to the realization that over the last couple of years that I had allowed stress, laziness, and other people’s priorities to take over how I was living life.  It is amazing how easy this can happen, especially when you have not decided to be disciplined with your life.

So when it comes to my health I have decided to get up every morning and work out. In fact the goal that I have set is to workout at least 4 days a week.  I had my son who is a personal trainer (you can hire him fright here on twitter @tjbloyer32) design a workout for me that helps me lose weight and gives me energy. Through this I have realized that when it comes to being a follower of Jesus that when my health gives that my ability to serve Jesus better and stronger.  I also understand that when it comes to my health that it is a place that I can worship God.

1 Corinthians 6:19–20 (NLT) 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.

So I have decided to honor God with my body and be disciplined to work out and eat healthy. Being disciplined is a decision and today you to can make the decision to live a disciplined life.  It’s not going to be easy and there are going to be those moments where you are going to want to fall back into old habits, (sleep in that’s me) but you have made a decision to be disciplined so work hard.

What are the areas of your life that you need to make a priority and decide to be disciplined in today? What are you going to do to make things change?


Living Terricited!

terrifiedWhat if I told you that every day should be a little terrifying.  What if I told you that if you aren’t walking through your life of faith a little nervous then you aren’t living at all.  The problem with both of those statements is that they make us UNCOMFORTABLE.  Something that most people in the western community of faith don’t like to hear.  I mean we want to be comfortable in our chairs, we want to be comfortable with our coffee, we want to be comfortable in our groups, we just plain want to be comfortable.

Well when my family and I felt that God was leading us to start a church in Colorado we all came up with our own word, “Terricited”. Because every day we were terrified and we were excited at the same time.  We were terrified that we were to move back to Colorado a place where I grew up and not as a follower of Jesus. (Dealing with your Past) But excited to be able to share with those same people about how my life has been drastically changed because of Jesus.  We were terrified that we didn’t have a place to live and we were struggling to find a place.  But we were excited about getting a place that would be a home base for raising our kids as the graduated from high school.  We were terrified because I had never been the lead pastor of a church, but I was excited because I had never been the lead pastor of a church.  In the New Testament you can read:

Mark 10:32a (NLT) 32 They were now on the way up to Jerusalem, and Jesus was walking ahead of them. The disciples were filled with awe, and the people following behind were overwhelmed with fear.

The people that were walking with Jesus the son of God in flesh, were in awe of what was going on were also overwhelmed with fear.  What does that mean? They were “terricited”!  So let me ask you this, where in your life are you terricited?  Where are you experiencing the awe of Jesus and the overwhelming fear where you need to see him show up?  Where are you terricited?  Because honestly I think that more and more of us need to be less comfortable and more terricited.  Let’s take some time this week to start getting a little TERRICITED.

 


Write yourself a letter?

Man writing on the paper in the officeThis week my brother Casey sent me an amazing article about Ryan Leaf and his life experiences.  What was so amazing about the article is that it was Ryan Leaf writing a letter to his younger self.  If you want to read it just click here you won’t be disappointed. But it made me think about what if I were to write a letter to my younger self and what would be the things that I would want to share.  Here are just a few of the highlights that I would share with my younger self:

  • Don’t let what people say about you or to you determine what you see in yourself.
  • Just because they are people that go to church doesn’t mean that they represent Jesus.
  • Know that when you experience heart break that it is leading you to the woman that you will spend the rest of your life with.
  • Just because there is a job that you want doesn’t necessarily mean that is that job that you need. God’s vision for you is bigger then your vision for you.
  • Enjoy the process and don’t always look for the next step.
  • Remember that your accomplishments are not in what you do but who you do them with in life.  There are three kids in your life that will change you and grow you more then you will ever know.

This is just a little of what I think that I would write to a younger Scott Bloyer.  What are some things that you would write down and tell your younger self if you could?  Looking back is always a good thing, just remember to not stay there. (Share one of your bullet points here.)


At The Bottom?

Feeling at the Bottom

So this last week I have to be honest I was struggling with some of the things in my life.  I was not happy with where certain things in my life were going.  I was not happy with how I was feeling physically.  I was not happy with the sound that the bird was making outside the house.  I was not happy with . . . well you put it in there I was just not happy.  I don’t know about you but for me it was one of those poor me days.  I just want you to know that I hate you if you don’t know what I am talking about. (Just kidding, not really.)

So I just started looking at twitter.  If you don’t know what that is . . . then get out of your cave.  Maybe that is why you don’t have poor me days either, your hiding away in a cave.  (Just kidding, not really.)  While I was reading about all the great things that was happening in this church,  or all of the cool things that were happening in this persons life,  and about how this person got a new job.  I found one tweet from Catalyst that had a link to a video and there I watched a video that really spoke to me.  Check this one out!

http://www.churchleaders.com/pastors/videos-for-pastors/170811-don-miller-on-the-greatness-of-jospeh.html

There I heard Donald Miller ask the question, ‘If God came to you and said it is going to work out great.  Do you think that you are going to have to go through a lot of hard times?”

As I listened to the rest of the video I realized that I was obviously not Joseph but I felt like everything was hard at the specific time.  That in my heart and my head I was wondering really if all that we were doing was worth it? For me I knew the story of Joseph and how his family had sold him off, that he was a slave that was accused of misconduct, and who spent many years in jail forgotten.  Until ONE DAY! ONE DAY he was brought in before the King and then ONE DAY he was put in charge of everything. (If you don’t know his story read here in the bible: Genesis chapter 37 – chapter 46.)

What I want to know is are you so tired of fighting, or are you so tired of being alone, or are you so tired of not having enough money, or are you just so tired that you feel that you are at your bottom?  You see there is going to be that ONE DAY.  But what if your ONE DAY is tomorrow and you quit today?  But what if your ONE DAY is next week and you give up on Sunday?  But what if your ONE DAY is next year and you quit on New Years Eve?

I want you to know that God is going to do what God is going to do, because He is God. I also want you to know that right now maybe as you look from the bottom of what ever it is in your life.  I want you to know that God is able to do something great.

What is that great thing with you? I don’t know God does ask him.

If you want to know more about what means to have a relationship with God then please feel free to contact me. Especially if you feel that you are at the BOTTOM.


Spending Time

Casey, Royce, & Me

This last Saturday I had the great opportunity to spend the evening with my brother Casey and Peter Boyle.  It was dinner and it was then watching some local MMA fights with KICK DOWN MMA 110.  It was a lot of fun being able to be a part of a great event and a great night.  But what I enjoyed the most was the time that I was able to spend with my brother and with Peter here is why:

  • That when you spend time with people you get to hear things about their life that you might not hear if you are just passing through.
  • That when you spend time with someone you get to know even more about them if you understand that you need to listen.
  • That when you spend time with someone you might just experience something that you never thought you would. (Meeting Royce Gracie)
  • That when you spend time with someone you see them enjoy life and share life with them.

But the problem is that most of us are so busy that we don’t take the time to really be with people.  We are checking our phones, we are watching TV, we are on our IPADS, or we are just not paying attention to the people around us.  Here is my challenge to you this week. SPEND TIME with someone, don’t do it with the TV on, don’t do it with your phone in your hand, and don’t do it just on your terms.  SPEND TIME being with someone.  So parents plan out time to SPEND TIME with your kids, if you are married SPEND TIME with your spouse, (Date your Mate, blog for another day.) and if you have people that you are just getting to know SPEND TIME getting to know them. By the way thanks Casey and Peter for spending time with me, it is much appreciated and I hope and pray that we get to SPEND more TIME.