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25 Year Anniversary

When you get to a certain mile stone in life you should take the time to reflect on how you got there.  The reason that I believe that is important is because wouldn’t it be great to share that information with those that are coming after you.  Especially as parents and to be honest in this day an age as a father we need to show more young men on how to lead the way in married life.  So here are a few things that I have learned over 25 years of marriage. (This is the short list)

  1. Keep a long list of ways that you can make her feel special and loved.
  2. Keep a short list of the fights that you have and the things that are said.
  3. Make time for talking about her day not matter what she does in life.
  4. Find older men that can talk to you about what they have done to be a healthy husband and father.
  5. Have a group of men that you can have the tough conversations with about marriage and parenting. (Your wife will not always understand you. DUH!)
  6. Always find time to get away for at least 24 hours without the rest of your family.  Couples need to take time for themselves, your relationship needs to matter or your family will not get your best.
  7. Celebrate the things that show your wife and your family that they matter. (Anniversary’s and Birthdays are the easy ways, get creative.)
  8. Make sure that you take the time to date your mate.  (If there was more courting in marriage there would be fewer marriages in court.)
  9. Pray daily for the ways that God can continue to grow and unite you as a couple.
  10. Start back at one . . .

If you have an idea of one thing that you think is important to remember for a long lasting marriage please feel to make a comment and share.  The more that we learn from each other and the more we share the better we become as men.


Crazy Community!

So while I was looking through my Facebook feed the other day this is a video that was posted by Larry Leith from Tokyo Joe’s.  (By the way I love their food and I love the culture that they have created for their business.)  It is a great little coffee shop that is located down in Colorado Springs just an hour from where we live here in Aurora.  The whole idea of the video is that people would go and visit other coffee shops in the area because of the community that has embraced them and by doing so end up with a free drink at Loyal Coffee.  They are calling it the “Dis-Loyality Card”! What an amazing idea!

Here is where this video took me though – the church community.  Isn’t this what we should be doing as the church?  Letting people know that the community of faith is here for each other and build a community that is for the city not just ourselves?  I was recently a part of a conversation about two churches in a community coming together for an event that helps grow leadership for both the city and the communities of faith.  It was going to be an exciting opportunity to see the KINGDOM of Jesus respond in a way that would be a huge influence in the city.  Well unfortunately one of the churches was not willing to partner in this endeavor because the building where the event was being held was not good enough for their people.  Are you serious? The building is the reason that these two churches couldn’t come together to make a difference in the city like never before?

What if we decided to have “Dis-Loyalty” Sundays where we encouraged the people of our churches to go and support another church in the community?  What if we called them BIG KINGDOM Sunday’s and we showed support for the big kingdom of Jesus?

What do you think about the coffee shop idea? What do you think about the BIG KINGDOM Sunday idea?


It’s not About What gets Done.

TeachOver the last 10 weeks I have been working with about 20 guys when it comes to our Spiritual Fitness Process at Elevation.  It has been an amazing opportunity for these guys to get to know one another and for them to get to know what it means to be a follower of Jesus that makes followers of Jesus.  So one of the recent weeks we began to talk about what is most important when it comes to helping people volunteer and work together as the church.  It was a conversation that you could tell was creating energy in the room and was really starting to gain ground in each of the guys minds.  So for me being a visual learner I started putting what they were talking about to a graph on the wipe board. (The Picture Above)  When we were done this is what was fleshed out.

Now here is the thing.  I believe that what we walked away writing out does not just pertain to a church community but to business as well.  Here are the bullet points to the idea that we came up with:

  • Most leaders are Baby Boomers or Gen X. so they are looking for tasks to be completed.  Is the job getting done?
  • Most Millennial’s or Generation Z (See this book.) would be looking for a relationship to happen with the person they are working with. Are we working together?
  • So what we said was that if the job is not getting done, then the leader is going to get frustrated.  If there is no relationship then the follower is going to get frustrated.
  • The big idea for both to grow is that there is supposed to be talking/teaching while the tasks are being completed.  (The idea: you watch, I do, we talk.)
  • Then the leader and the follower grow and the opportunity for business or church growth happens as well.

What are your thoughts about the idea? What do you think is missing? Where do you feel the most frustration as a leader and as a follower?


Write yourself a letter?

Man writing on the paper in the officeThis week my brother Casey sent me an amazing article about Ryan Leaf and his life experiences.  What was so amazing about the article is that it was Ryan Leaf writing a letter to his younger self.  If you want to read it just click here you won’t be disappointed. But it made me think about what if I were to write a letter to my younger self and what would be the things that I would want to share.  Here are just a few of the highlights that I would share with my younger self:

  • Don’t let what people say about you or to you determine what you see in yourself.
  • Just because they are people that go to church doesn’t mean that they represent Jesus.
  • Know that when you experience heart break that it is leading you to the woman that you will spend the rest of your life with.
  • Just because there is a job that you want doesn’t necessarily mean that is that job that you need. God’s vision for you is bigger then your vision for you.
  • Enjoy the process and don’t always look for the next step.
  • Remember that your accomplishments are not in what you do but who you do them with in life.  There are three kids in your life that will change you and grow you more then you will ever know.

This is just a little of what I think that I would write to a younger Scott Bloyer.  What are some things that you would write down and tell your younger self if you could?  Looking back is always a good thing, just remember to not stay there. (Share one of your bullet points here.)


Crossroads at Kiowa,CO

Kiowa

Ever have one of those weeks when you are just not sure about where you are going or what you are doing?  Am I the only one who has ever felt this way?  Well a week ago I just felt overwhelmed and unsure of what I needed to do next.  So I got up and worked out, finished reading a book on leadership, and then I went for a ride.  I didn’t know where I was going I just pointed the bike east and rode.

I was riding east on E. Qunicy Rd and I went until I ran out of pavement.  Then I took a right and just went south not knowing where I was going to end up.  It was a perfect day, there was a cool breeze the sun wasn’t to hot and I was able to just soak in the rolling view.  For me this was an amazing time where I was truly seeking God and having a great conversation with him as I rode along.  I was really seeking to know and hear what God wanted for me at this time in my life.  What I didn’t know was that I was on the Kiowa Bennett Road and I was about to be smack dab in the middle of Kiowa population 723 as of the last census.  Now I am not proud to say this but as a Colorado Native I didn’t have a clue about Kiowa. When I entered into the town there was not a city sign in site, so literally  I had no clue where I was.

So I pulled into the first gas station I could find.  My legs were a little stiff from the being on the bike for awhile and I needed to take care of some business and it was exactly what you think.  So I struggled into the Sinclair Gas station to find out where I was and to go to the bathroom.  As I entered I was greeted by Nasime the man that was running the station.  I asked him where was I?  “To which he responded well sir you are here.”  I said, “I know that but what town is this?”  To which he responded, “You are in Kiowa and Jesus will always help you.” I said, “Great thanks!” as I stepped into the bathroom.  But my mind was still processing what he had said to me.  So when I was done I stepped out and asked him what he had just said to me.  With a big smile, Nasime said again; “Jesus will help you all you have to remember is to trust Jesus.”

Now I was so taken back to what he had said that I thanked him handed him my card and walked out the front door with my mouth wide open.  I had been praying that God would let me know what I needed to do and from the mouth of Nasime it came.  TRUST JESUS! Don’t do anything, don’t go anywhere, don’t try to figure it out, just TRUST JESUS.

Maybe this week you need to hear this, TRUST JESUS.  I don’t know what you are going through I don’t know what you are struggling with, I don’t know what burden you are carrying.  But I want to encourage you to TRUST JESUS.

Proverbs 3:5–6 (NLT) Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.Seek his will in all you do,and he will show you which path to take.

What do you need to trust him with today?


Eddie Hall Deadlift!

Eddie Hall

So this last week strongman Eddie Hall completed a one rep of deadlift of 1102.31 lbs. and then as soon as he put the weight down collapsed. In fact if you want to watch the video of him completing this life just click here and watch. This is a guy that all he does is train and train and train for this event and when he completed the lift it totally drained him.  Why is that so many of us think that we can work harder and harder with out thinking we will fall?

So here are a few things that we each should think about when it comes to avoiding the big let down after the big lift:

  1. Make sure you know your own ability.  To many people think that they can handle more and more when it comes to their lives.  But ultimately it is really way more then they can handle and because it is more than they can handle they collapse under the weight.  They collapse in their marriage, with their finances, with their friends, and maybe they collapse physically.
  2. Make sure that you take time to rest.  After Eddie made this lift he ended up having nosebleeds and passed out.  His body let him know that it was time to rest.  Some people are being told by their bodies through stress, anxiety, chest pains, and other symptoms that it is time to rest.  So what do you do to rest?  I like to ride my motorcycle because you can’t answer emails, you can’t except phone calls, and you just go.  I take naps on Sunday afternoons, after a long Sunday morning.
  3. Make sure you take time to recover.  This is different then rest.  Rest should be something that you do on a regular basis, when it comes to recovery this should be through out the year.  Here I will put it this way, VACATION.  That’s right you need to take a vacation that is all about recovery, do nothing, lounge away, without any schedule.  If you don’t take the recovery time through out your life the rest will just help you limp along and not function at your best.

These are just three simple things that if you are wanting to be able to life the big weight in life to do. One of the other things that I know is helpful when it comes to maintaining the ability to lift big and well in life is being a part of a church community. There you will find other people that can become your lifting partner in life.  You can’t lift big weight all by yourself it will just crush you eventually. For more information about Elevation just click here.


Lyft and their Methods

lyft_emblemOver the last couple of weeks I have had the opportunity to see and hear how LYFT registers and adds drivers to their business.  As a person that likes to see see how businesses function and get people working on their team it has been a lot of fun.  Here are some things that I have seen about what they do:

  1. They help their people get ready.  One of the things that I have noticed is that when drivers show up their is one person constantly talking to them about their opportunity to make money with LYFT.  This person is always making sure the people standing in line are getting powerful information about how LYFT functions and how they can make things better for them.
  2. They have a clear process to make sure the vehicle is safe.  When someone decides to drive for LYFT their vehicle has to be in good shape.  They will not allow a vehicle to be on the road for them if it is not approved for safety.  I have personally seen people get turned away time and time again because they have not done what the LYFT company has asked them to do on their vehicle. (Funny to watch people try to lie their way in, ok sad really.)
  3. They want to the person to feel they are in a special community. Time and time and time again, I have heard them say you are now a part of LYFT and we are a team.  They then talk about the mustache because they are all wearing their shirts as they work with people.  They bring with them pink mustached table clothes and then they have pink mustached envelopes.  The brand and celebrate the people on the team and then the team itself.
  4. LFYT has people that represent the world working for them.  It is really fun to be able to sit down and watch all the different types of people that are signing up to be a LYFT driver.  There is young and old, black and white, people with degrees people without degrees, dressed well, well at least kind of dressed.  The way that they have brought together people to be on the team has been amazing.

Here is one thing that has challenged me as I have watched LYFT get people on their team.  Why is it that they can do what the church should be doing? I know that there will be some people that are saying its because they are getting paid.  Probably.  But some of them never make a dollar but they are excited to have the pink mustache on their car.  Take the time this week to think about what you can do to make sure that people at your church have a LYFT kind of experience.

We have a partnership with LYFT so if you want to become a new rider with LYFT then just take this code:1010ELEVATE and place it in the LYFT APP and you can help out the mission and vision of Elevation.

If you are interested in becoming a LYFT driver not matter where you live use this code: W271294 and you will be a partner with LYFT and Elevation Church in Aurora, CO.  You never know what might happen if you get on the team with LYFT.