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Relationship Recovery – GUYS

As we start this series on the Relationship Recovery I thought that it would be the best to make sure we start with the guys.  We have decided to take the stance that Relationship Recovery is not about “therapy” but being like a medic or a firefighter that comes in to recover the injured.  We are looking to really get in there and save some relationships through the example that Jesus has set for us. Now I want every guy to realize that whether you are single, married, or just thinking girls are OK. This is an opportunity for each of us where ever we are at in life to realize there is a standard for how to care for the women in our lives.

Ephes. 5:25-30 (NLT) And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her [26] to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God’s word. [27] He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. [28] In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man is actually loving himself when he loves his wife. [29] No one hates his own body but lovingly cares for it, just as Christ cares for his body, which is the church. [30] And we are his body.

We need to make sure that we see the importance of something that come from these verses.  First we need to make sure that we are ready and able to sacrifice everything for the relationship, especially if we are married.  Jesus set the pace in this area.  Second every man needs to know that her well being should be the utmost importance.  That means in many different ways.  Financially, relationally, sexually (MARRIED ONLY), and in the house.  What are you doing to make her feel secure in the relationship?  You need to think that through.  Then third and finally,He should care for her as he cares for his own body.  Now that means for some of us we need to start taking way better care of her, have you looked in the mirror (joke).  The point is that you are never going to let yourself die so why would you let her? (Some women really feel that they are dying inside because of the way the men in their lives are treating them.)

Take the time this week to really evaluate the way your are setting the pace in your relationships with the women in your life.  What do you need to change? Ladies what would you like to see in the men of Elevation? Or what would you hope would change in your life because of the men in your life?


One response

  1. Ryan Duncan

    Relationships are the very premise of God and the very purpose of humanity. In many, if not most religions throughout the world, God is but one person or entity, thus, there is no relationship to be had or given. Christianity is unique in that God has established a Trinity. In Christianity there are Three beings: God, Jesus (Son), and the Holy Spirit. They are relational and because of it, we can be relational with God.

    God is relational, thus we (humanity) are relational. Because of this we are unable to control this desire to have relationships. Whether they are healthy or unhealthy is not the point here. The fact remains that all of us are searching for something, someone, or some type of God or idea of god that can quench the thirst we are all striving to satisfy.

    Within Christianity, I believe, that we have the premier example of how to conduct all of our relationships on this earth. This is true because we have the Trinity. It is from this that we learn that God sent his Son (Christ) into the world on behalf of humanity. After Jesus was crucified, He slowly revealed himself to his disciples and many others. Upon his ascension into heaven, God left us with the Holy Spirit to contend with our hearts and drive us into the far reaches of the world.

    So, what does this mean for you and me? It means that God loved us first and because of it, we can love others as ourselves. Without God, loving others is impossible. It becomes impossible because, as all of us who are honest can admit and recognize, we begin to judge others based on our own set of principles and guidelines. We are naturally inclined to division, there is no way around this truth. Could this possibly be the real reason why Christ calls us to a non-judgmental life?

    The problem in relationships, as Scott pointed out in Mondays sermon, is ME (you). This problem, which God calls selfishness, greed, anger, jealousy, and pride lies within ME and YOU, Christian or not. Because we are full of these wonderful characteristics (sarcasm), we fail to identify the main problems in most of our relationships, ME.

    God restores ME. ME learns to love others as ME, which is really Christ in ME loving others as He loves ME. Understand? It is only possible to have relationships, because God has first chosen to have a relationship with ME.

    Thus the whole Bible can be summed up in one command: “Love God, and Love YOU as I love ME.”

    August 14, 2010 at 7:29 PM

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