Romance in Marriage
Over the last couple of weeks I have been doing a lot of talking to both young men and young women about love, sex, relationship, and romance. What I am learning is that many of them especially the young men think that romance is just what happens between the sheets. That either from what they have seen or heard that you only need to romance someone until you get married or I have even heard, “that is the woman’s job”. When I heard that I looked at the young man that said that and asked him “So when was the last time you were on date?”. He just looked at me. I replied to the blank stare with “That is what I thought.”
What I want to shout from the roof tops is Men need to quit trying to be what the world sees as a macho manly man and become a real man. As I have been reading through the Bible and looking at Song of Songs and hearing the romance that is going on between a man and a women I really see how stupid we as men have become when it comes to romance. I mean Solomon the king is rich, powerful, wise, and his romantic. I think that in my book I want to hear what he says over Dr. Phil. He talks about romance, about being in love, about the beauty of his bride, he even goes as far as writing a Song. The title of the book is “Song of Songs”. What have you done lately for your wife that had nothing to do with a holiday that was probably created by a love starved wife because her husband was a moron and did not how to romance her. So if there was a holiday he might be guilted in to doing something.
Men, I use that term because I want to talk to the men that really want to love there wife. Men go and get her flowers if that is what she likes, go into the kitchen and clean up after dinner in stead of putting your fat butt on the couch. Make sure that she is satisfied and taken care of before yourself. Because I want to remind you that if you can do that then most likely she won’t have any reason to want someone else. (There is more about that later to come.)
What have you done romantically lately that has nothing to do with Valentine’s day or because you felt guilty?