I am so excited that this weekend we are having some very special and awesome people share their story during our services at Elevation Christian Church in Aurora, CO. You are not going to want to miss hearing all that has happend in their life and thier marriage over the last year. So with that we are finishing up our series called “I Want A New Marriage” and we want to do something special. We want to make sure that we are not just a church that talks a good game but really puts our money where are mouth is when it comes to enabling people to experience life change. So this weekend during our services we are going to give away a “NIGHT OUT” we have purchased meals and a movie tickets for two lucky people that come this weekend. The meals are for Chili’s, On The Border, Macaroni Grill, or Maggiano’s. The movie theatres are Regal Cinemas, United Artist Theatres, and Edwards Theatres.
We have been talking about making sure that we are loving and caring for the people in our lives. We know that right now for people it can be a huge financial burden just to be able to afford to go out. Well now that is not going to be an issue because we have taken care of that for you. Who knows maybe we could talk Ryan Graham into being your driver. (That is a joke, not happening) Make sure that you get to one of our services this weekend at 9:00 & 10:30AM at Dalton Elementary School in Aurora, CO. If you are a really nice friend you might even invite them to come with you so that they have a chance at winning as well.
At the beginning of the month on Superbowl Sunday we as a church chose to also be a part of what is called “Porn Sunday”. Crag Gross and the people at XXXChurch did an awesome job of providing information as well as support to the churches that were a part of “Porn Sunday”. It was a very powerful and amazing day where we saw both men and women start to deal with their addiction to porn. But I want to share with you just a small section of a letter that was sent to me by a very brave and awesome lady that has gone through a destructive relationship that was destroyed by a porn addiction. What she shared was some things for spouses of porn addicts to work through. I felt that they were awesome to let people read because this is from someone that has gone through the fire and is on the other side with a perspective that will enable us to care for and reach not just the porn addict but their family as well. Here is what she shared:
1. I didn’t show honor – At the time, in my mind it was ALL his fault – our divorce. I had done nothing wrong. I now know differently. While I can’t change anyone, I am fully responsible for me. I reacted with rage, anger, bitterness, un-forgiveness, hatred, verbal abuse, and emotional withdrawal. Someone had quoted a verse to me earlier and was right to quote it to me, though it was used out of context: “Love covers a multitude of sins.” I now understand what that means – I had told everyone I knew of all of my husband’s faults and about his addiction for TWO reasons: 1) I really did want help and 2) Honestly, to try to make me look good and him bad. I did not honor him. While what he had done was wrong, what I had done in spreading the gossip about his addiction was just as wrong. It was not honoring, respectful, or loving. I see now it did not provide an environment where he could feel safe to be vulnerable and receive the help & healing he needed. That’s not to say he would have chosen to do that if I had reacted differently. Maybe he would have accepted help, maybe not.
2. It is ok to be angry!! It’s not ok for that to grow to bitterness. Several years later I finally did receive the help that I needed. I was able to express my anger and intense pain to people who listened and didn’t blame. But at the same time they held me accountable for HOW I expressed that anger and wouldn’t let me stay there. There is help out there and for those who have a spouse involved in pornography – THEY HAVE TO GET HELP FOR THEMSELVES. I realized I was trying to change my husband. To make him stop so I wouldn’t hurt any more. I couldn’t change him. I can only change myself. I learned to press deeply into God’s Word and let him change ME. To see my ex-husband through God’s eyes. I was able to release him and forgive him. The pain is still there, but it doesn’t control me. I was able to write my ex-husband a letter asking forgiveness for what I had done in verbally lashing out at him and the other hateful things I had done.
3. Boundaries are necessary. Pornography is progressive. It is a sex-addiction. It is wrong. It destroys families. It may not always be necessary to divorce but sometimes it is necessary to separate. Make boundaries clear beforehand and with a plan as to what will happen during the time of separation.
If are you someone that is in a relationship with someone that is a Porn Addict then I encourage you to go to XXXChurch.com and see what they can do to help you. If you are a person maybe a husband or dad that is dealing with this then I ask you to go to someone and get help right away. This is not just something that affects you it affects your whole family. If you are a lady and would like to email the woman that shared what she dealt with then please message me and I will make sure you can get connected with her. I also want to remind each and every person that reads through this that Jesus loves you not matter what you have done or where you have been and He is waiting for you.
Over the last couple of weeks at Elevation Christian Church we have really felt the need to tackle some heavy topics. We talked about PORN and the damage it does to relationships. We didn’t back down from what it means for the families of people dealing with PORN as well as the ones that are addicted to it.
This week we tackled another heavy topic, DIVORCE. It was a message that I truly prayed over and really knew that we needed to deal with as we go through this series called “I Want A New Marriage”. Anytime that you talk about marriage you also have to talk about divorce seeing how in some books they say 35% of marriages end in divorce or some others say that it is as high as 50%. No matter what the statistic may be it is an area of life that has affected us all. I can share about the different relationships in my own family that have been effected, I have uncles and aunts, cousins, a brother, and even my own parents. So as I walked into this weekend were I felt that there needed to be much grace when it came to this topic because I too know the sting of this subject and how it changes each person that is involved. I also knew that we needed to call peoples attention to the severity of the damage that it causes and I chose to even point out that living together because you have been hurt in divorce is not what God wants either. I know that there are situations that I might not now about or that there are things that have happened in the past. All I know is that I am called by God to speak about what He wants for our marriages and if that bothers someone then I have to remember that even Jesus had people get upset with His teaching. (Good company to be in I think.)
What was awesome was the conversations that I did have with several couples that have been attending our church and are seeing the next steps that they need to take in their own relationships. That they heard the grace and mercy of Jesus and they understood that what they were doing was not what God wanted for them in their relationships and that they knew that God as calling them to make some huge commitments and decisions in their lives. I pray that they continue to take those steps to live the way that Jesus has called them to live not because it is easy but because it is the best for them.
As we head into the month of February we all know that Valentine’s Day is in that month. So with that in mind we decided that it was a great time to talk about relationships, marriage, and all that goes with that. Valentine’s Day is really a day that we celebrate the love and relationships we have and it comes only once a year. What is sad is that may be for some people the most romantic and awesome day they have in the year which is really pathetic! With that in mind we are going through a series called ”I Want A New Marriage” what we want people to really see is that the new marriage or relationship that they want is the one that they already have, it just takes some work. I know that we always hear that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, well that is because someone on the other side of the fence put the work into the yard and that is why it looks the way it does.
I thought that we could start out the month by giving people some tools that they can use when it comes to the relationships in their lives. But I want you to realize that the tools are only good if you use them. Here are two books that I have read in the last couple of weeks that I think have great information and practicality in them for relationships.
“Love & War: Finding the marriage that you dreamed of” by John and Stasi Eldredge you can also find the 8 week Devotional for Couples that is great.
“The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted” by Gary Chapman it too has a companion book that you can go through as a couple for Bible Study.
“Love & War” is a great book that walks you through their relationship and all that they struggled with to be where they are today. It is a great read if there are things in your marriage and relationship that are keeping you part. ”The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted” is a great book that will actually give you work to do at the end of each chapter that allows you to put into practice what you are learning, if you are not a big reader then this is the one that you will what to get. I hope that this is a help to get things rolling in your relationships and marriages. Even if you are a single person these are great to read because it prepares you to think now about what you will want in your marriage. If you are a single guy then I would encourage you STRONGLY to read these because it will prepare you to be the husband that I guarantee a lady is looking for in her life.
I am so excited to say that we have had an awesome last couple of weeks meeting on Sunday mornings. Over the last 7 months we had been meeting on Monday nights once a month and then eventually twice a month. So to take the step of meeting weekly has been an awesome undertaking as well as amazing opportunity to see God at work. Here are some things that I experienced today:
- We have an amazing team of people that are taking the mission of “Developing relational environments where people can become followers of Jesus” to a Sunday morning.
- Lives are being impacted by the Gospel. We are seeing people come face to face with Jesus in amazing ways.
- The “Sex, Money, Power: A Man Series” GRUNT. Is being used to enable men to see specific areas of life through the Bible and the power of the Holy Spirit. We have been told of miracles in marriages being restored, Fathers seeing the need to lead spiritually in their homes, and hearts being softened to take deep steps in following Jesus.
- That taking care of the custodians in the school we meet at is not an add on but a ministry that is breaking down barriers to the Gospel.
As we finish this series this Sunday on Halloween I am excited to all our families dress up for church and have fun as a team. It will be a great lead into Novembers series “NO PERFECT PEOPLE ALLOWED” I am so pumped to see what happens next.
It is so exciting to be able to be writing about our preview service this last weekend. We are in the last week of preparation for the launch of Elevation Christian Church. This was the first time that we were in the school and setting things up and it was just incredible to see the team that we have work together and put everything together.
Here are some things that I saw that was incredible:
- We had a student walk up to the school from her house at 7:00AM to help set-up.
- We were able to see people get in and serve all over the place, when one area was complete they moved to help the others.
- Our children’s team had things so ready that families were able to go and hang out before the service started.
- The first impressions team made a place for people to hang out and the people that were there had a place to relax and get to know each other. Relationships happening.
- The music ministry hustled into place and presented worship in an amazing way.
- We had a man say yes to Jesus. It is awesome to the gospel move in a person’s life.
I am so excited to see what happens next week with our launch service and being able to reach a whole new group of people. I am so blessed to see God bring his team together and do the work that he has called us too.
As we start this series on the Relationship Recovery I thought that it would be the best to make sure we start with the guys. We have decided to take the stance that Relationship Recovery is not about “therapy” but being like a medic or a firefighter that comes in to recover the injured. We are looking to really get in there and save some relationships through the example that Jesus has set for us. Now I want every guy to realize that whether you are single, married, or just thinking girls are OK. This is an opportunity for each of us where ever we are at in life to realize there is a standard for how to care for the women in our lives.
Ephes. 5:25-30 (NLT) And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her  to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God’s word.  He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault.  In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man is actually loving himself when he loves his wife.  No one hates his own body but lovingly cares for it, just as Christ cares for his body, which is the church.  And we are his body.
We need to make sure that we see the importance of something that come from these verses. First we need to make sure that we are ready and able to sacrifice everything for the relationship, especially if we are married. Jesus set the pace in this area. Second every man needs to know that her well being should be the utmost importance. That means in many different ways. Financially, relationally, sexually (MARRIED ONLY), and in the house. What are you doing to make her feel secure in the relationship? You need to think that through. Then third and finally,He should care for her as he cares for his own body. Now that means for some of us we need to start taking way better care of her, have you looked in the mirror (joke). The point is that you are never going to let yourself die so why would you let her? (Some women really feel that they are dying inside because of the way the men in their lives are treating them.)
Take the time this week to really evaluate the way your are setting the pace in your relationships with the women in your life. What do you need to change? Ladies what would you like to see in the men of Elevation? Or what would you hope would change in your life because of the men in your life?
Michelle and I love to listen to Diana Krall when the kids are in bed and we are able to relax and enjoy our time. This is has been one of those areas that we truly knew was important for us to keep for us to be able to be the husband and wife we needed to be. I also believe that it is because we were able to make sure that we had this time that we were able to be better parents. We had time for us to be unified in heart and mind when it came to life and the kids. This may not be your kind of music but I encourage you to find whatever music you and your spouse enjoy turn the music on and then just spend time with the two of you. No matter how many kids you have no matter what ages they are, you need your time together. Because if you don’t have your time together now when your kids are grown up and gone you will have tons of time together and you may not know who you are spending time with.
What kind of music do you and your spouse enjoy listening to while you relax? If you can’t answer that question then you need to find out.
I have had several people share with me about this song. Then I went on Youtube and I found this video and I sat there in awe of the story and the words that this man wrote. I pray that you will listen to this song and really take the time to digest what your life looks like when it comes to going through the MOTIONS. Matthew West ROCKS!
So I have to ask when it comes to your life with Jesus where are you going through the motions? Make a comment and let’s talk pray for each other.
In my office I have several pictures on my wall of my family. There are the pictures of the kids doing different things like football and volleyball. There are the way out of date family pictures where they are all shorter then me. (Not so now.) But there in the center of all of those pictures is the one that you can see below. It is two pictures of my wife in a frame done by some very special friends in Miles City, MT at “Unique Creations”.
In between the pictures you can see some typed up lines. Those lines are some verse from the bible that I think are important for me to remember when it comes to being a husband. They are the following:
Proverbs 5:18-19 (Msg) Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!  Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose— don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
I can imagine some of you asking the question, “Why are these verse important to being a husband?” That is a great question and I am glad that you asked it. It is important for me to remember as a husband because a husband needs to remember that his wife is a fountain of love in his life. That just like a fountain that we see in a mall that if not taken care of can become unpleasant. If the fountain is not always being refreshed it eventually can become stale.
That I am always to enjoy the wife of my youth. That whether we are twenty five or seventy five she is the standard of beauty in my life. That everyone and everything can not compare to her beauty. That as we grow old together she will always be the wife that I fought for, the wife that I wrote poems for, that wife that I chased after, and that should always be the way that I treat her. As the young husband that worked so very hard at making sure that she knew she was the only one for me.
That I am always to be sexually active with my wife. Now I am sure that some of you are thinking well that is not something you have to work at you are a male. Your right, but there are things of this world that are very busy trying to get me to not focus on my wife whom I love. The things out there are pornography, strip clubs, jobs, sports, and even friends. These are things that can if I let them, keep me from making sure that I am loving my wife emotionally and physically. I believe that for some reason men have bought into the idea that when it comes to sex that their needs are the ones that are the most important. Unfortunately if you are a husband and that is the way that you think then at least one person is enjoying the whole minute of pleasure. I am just saying. Maybe if we took the time to make sure our wives were pleased or wives would take the time to make sure we were. I am to take delight in her and only her.
Then finally I am to “Not take her love for granted.” As a husband I am to always be seeking to make sure that she knows that she is loved. Not that she feels that she is loved because feelings can change with the weather. But that through my words, my actions, and my life that she and those around her know that she is loved. That is why these verses are important to me as a husband. I heard this statement a long time ago, “Maybe if there was more courting in marriage there would be less marriages in court.” Guys it is time to be step up and be the husband that your wife needs and desires. So why not ask her today if she knows that she is loved. Maybe, if you have the guts ask her friends if they know she is loved because if she is not then they will surely know. Take the time to work more on your marriage and the relationship with your wife then you do your fantasy football league.
So last week I chose to put on my facebook page a question with a picture. What was amazing to me was first the amount of responses that I got about growing a beard. As well as the way the responses were divided male and female as well as the view points that came from the male and female friends that responded.
One of the things that I heard from the guys was “that would be manly, a full beard”, then from the ladies was “did you ask your wife about this.” There were even some very precise comments like “you know that growing a beard can complicate kissing” that was from a female perspective. The guys comments are “beards rock” or the “you can then catch more bugs” comment came from a fellow motorcycle rider. What I noticed was that not one guy commented about it in the context of the relationship with my wife. To me it was pretty funny to just watch the comments come in. I liked some of the creative ones as well one lady wrote “what if your wife doesn’t shave her legs” another one said “if you grow a beard then you will look upside down” (I shave my head). I just love how God has wired us to think different ways and to see things differently. Wouldn’t it be boring with out such great perspectives. So are you wondering if I have shave? Well here is the first picture as well as the new picture. We are going with the beard.
For all those ladies out there that made comments about what did my wife think. Well I asked her opinion first. You see I do want to know if that would change the kissing in our house. I also think that of any one’s opinion hers is going to carry the only weight. I just see this as a great way to continue to encourage guys to think about when it comes to our decisions do we think about what our spouses would think. I spend a lot of time counseling people that are married that think that there opinion is the most important in the relationship. Well if you think that way I would just say you would be better off getting a pet and not a spouse. Because your pets you can order around. Not a spouse. When Eve was created in the garden of Eden she was created from Adams rib. Not from the bottom of his foot, for her to be ruled upon. Not from the top of the head where she is to rule upon the man, but from the side the place where a partner stands. So I encourage all of us husbands and wives to begin in our thoughts about decisions first with what God would want and then second how does this affect my spouse. If we think this way I really believe a lot of issues that we deal with will slowly go away.
While I was in Colorado visiting with some church leaders about the start of a new church. I had the great opportunity to be able to go have lunch with a new friend in an old and very important place. You see we met at Senor Ric’s it was the place where 18 years ago I proposed to Michelle to marry me. Now some of you may be thinking wow Scott you are a big spender, doesn’t look like much. Well, I was twenty two and that was where Michelle told me it was her favorite place to eat. Had nothing to do with being fancy it had to do with it being the place that they lady I liked a lot love to go too.
I remember that after I had gone and asked her dad if it was OK to marry Michelle that I had to go and get the ring that she had already told me that she liked. I just want to remind then young guys out there that yes you need to ask the father to marry the daughter. (My thought is that if you don’t have the guts to ask for her hand in marriage then as a father how do I know that you are going to have the guts to stand up for her.)
I began to prepare for the evening by asking Michelle if she wanted to go out and get some food. I told her that I would take her to her favorite place, “Senor Ric’s”. She was way excited and so was I, so excited that I began to sweat just thinking about the coming evening. So I bought some flowers in an arrangement to place the ring case in for her to receive from the waiter as he came to the table with our drinks. I took the flowers and the ring to the restaurant that afternoon with the understanding that if they were not there when I showed up with my girl that someone would surely would get to meet Jesus personally face to face.
We made it to the restaurant and we were sat down at the table next to the kitchen. With the waiter that knew what was going on. Michelle and I ordered our drinks and the waiter went on his way. I just remember that as he walked away to get our drinks I remember that my mouth went dry real fast and my heart began to beat louder then it had ever before. I also remember seeing all of the kitchen staff and other staff of the restaurant begin to be hanging around the door. Then there it was the tray with the flowers and the ring. The waiter walked out and placed it on the table in front of Michelle and I sat there caught in the moment watching her face search the flowers and with surprise notice the open box with the ring in it. I then made my way to one knew next to the table and grabbed her by the hand and asked her to marry me. I have to say that in that moment between the question and the answer I felt my heart almost stop and wait just like the kitchen staff that were standing around the room. I will never ever forget the joy and warmth that I experienced when she said, “Yes”. It was in that moment that I even remember the couple next to us in the other table stop and watch as I grabbed her hand and placed the ring on her finger. I was so excited that I almost didn’t notice the tears in her eyes and the cheer that we received from the room and that group of kitchen staff that had waited as long as I had that day to hear her answer.
It was that day I remember thinking that this is the beginning to a new, exciting, and amazing phase in my life. I have not be disappointed one bit! Having Michelle on loan to me as my wife is amazing and I will never be able to express to her how much that one word of “Yes” ever meant to me.
Think about the places that you have made decisions in or places that have great meaning to your walk with those in your life, or in your walk with Christ and know that there can always be new memories in old places.
As we have continued to seek the Lord and ask Him what he wants for the church in Aurora, CO this is what we have come to see, feel, and hear. This is the vision statement:
“Engaging the world to elevate the name of Jesus one life at a time”
That is the vision that we have that is the big picture that we feel as been laid out for us. It is our way of communicating what that bible says is the mission for the church. That Jesus has directed us to be as the church through out the New Testament. The way that we see the church doing that is our mission statement:
“We will develop relational environments that enable people to be followers of Jesus.”
As we have walked through scripture and listened to what the Lord wants from his church we see that “relationships” are very important. We see that this is what Jesus modeled, what he mentored, and what he left in the message of His word for us. We need to be in a relationship with Jesus and others. Which is what we read:
Over the last couple of weeks I have had a lot of time away from my home and I have traveled all over the United States. One of the greatest places that I have had the great blessing to travel to is the “Fern Grotto” on the Island of Kauai. There I was in this beautiful place to perform a wedding. To be there to join two amazing people together in holy union.
In this place it was not hard to think of the garden of Eden and all of the time that man and woman were able to spend walking with God. That at one point and time the relationship between man and woman with there God was perfect. It was in the most beautiful place that was on this earth. But in that place also the greatest relationship damage happened. It is hard for me to believe that in that beautiful place relationships were ripped a part. The relationship between God and his people, as well as things started to come a part for the man and the woman.
So for us to be sharing this place together for a wedding was amazing. To me it was amazing because I believe that through marriage that God is giving us the picture constantly of what He sees for us and His church. He sent His son to die on the cross to pay the price to put His kids and His bride the church back into a right relationship with Him. I pray that we will remember that our marriages are to be a representation of God and His church. I want to be the husband that can lead and love in his home the way that Jesus did when it came to the church. He gave His all. His whole life. Father remind me daily that I am to be the leader of my home, a leader that lives sacrificially to restore and keep the beauty of the garden of Eden.
What are you doing in your relationship husband so lead your home sacrificially like Jesus?
There are many days that I look into the faces of my children and wonder what large waves will they face? What are the areas of their life will they feel are crashing around them like the large waves on a beach?
One of those areas that I constantly pray is not when it comes to the relationship that I have with their mother. A statistic that I have heard and read over the last couple of months is that 40% of children wake up every day without their father in their home. I believe one of the things that God has called me to be in this life is a husband. Not husband that sits back and just does what he wants, or that I feel is best for me, but a husband that seeks to be the husband that my wife needs and that God wants for her.
Malachi 2:15 (NLT) “Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard yourself; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”
The greatest wave that could possibly hit the lives of my children would be if I would not be the husband that God has called me to be to the wife that God has loaned to me for this life. It is a daily prayer of mine that men will begin to step up and be the men that their families need. That we will actually lead in our homes the way that we lead in the office, that we will take as much pride in our families as we do in our paychecks, and that our wives will be treated as amazing gifts from God and not objects that are to be used and traded in. I pray that today that men will get the guts or whatever word that you choose to lead and love their families. So that they will not feel the wave of a broken family come crashing around them.
“In each of my friends that is something that only some other friend can fully bring out. By myself I am not large enough to call the whole man into activity; I want other lights than my won to show all the facets. No that Charles (Williams) is dead, I shall never again see Ronald’s (Tolkien’s) reaction to a specifically Charles joke. Far from having more of Ronald, having him “to myself” now that Charles is away, I have less of Ronald. . . In this, friendship exhibits a glorious “nearness by resemblance” to heaven itself where the very multitude of the blessed (which no man can number) increases the fruition which each of us has of God. For every soul, seeing Him in her own way, doubtless communicates that unique vision to all the rest. That, says an old author, is why the Seraphim in Isaiah’s vision are crying “Holy, Holy, Holy” to one another (Isaiah 6:3) The more we thus share the Heavenly Bread between us, the more we shall have.”
The Four Loves, by C.S. Lewis
I love this writing of C.S. Lewis from “Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe” to “Mere Christianity”. But I came across this quote in a book and it has really taken over my thinking. It is amazing to me that so many of us feel that we can go through life without really have close relationships. That we can walk through life on our own and think that is noble, brave, or even manly. But from what I can see that this great author thought that without true friendship we never become the best person we can possibly be or that God wants us to be. That C.S. Lewis even went so as far to say that we can never know God as well as we would hope without the friendships of true community.
We need each other. We need the gathering together of brothers and sisters in Christ to enable our lives to be that richer and greater when it comes to our lives in Christ. The question that I have for you is what level of community are you experiencing in your life? Are you living within a brotherhood or a sisterhood that would cease to be complete if you were not there?
I had to put this in for all of you, that like me deal with the coffee addiction. I would like to call it “Christian Crack”. Anyway where are you on the Caffeine Curve? With the invention of the “Monster” or “Red Bull” I guess that this curve is not just for coffee any more. Thought that this was funny and I hope that you enjoy it too. I think that some of you might even have to post this on your desk or near the coffee pot at home and make a red mark on the chart for where you are at in that moment. This would be a great safety feature for co-workers, spouses, children, little dogs, and cats. I encourage you also to check the curve every once in awhile to be ware of what you say and do around individuals on their way down the curve, it could save your life.
So last week I shared a special message from Perry Noble the lead pastor at NewSpring. This week I want to share with you another part of the message series that they are doing called “Beautiful”. The reason that I felt compelled to share this with you is because I want to say that I totally and with out any doubt in my mind agree with what Perry shares about single men today. I remember the advice that I received from my parents about dating and it was always about being a gentleman and I tried my best. But I know that I was not the best example of a Godly young man. But now that I have two daughters and a son I love the way that Perry calls things like it is! I have even gone as far as telling my daughters that if the young man doesn’t open the car door come back in the house. If he comes back to the door then he can explain to me why the door wasn’t opened in the first place. I expect the same thing from my son as well. So click on the link for Beautiful and watch the video. Once you have watched the video please let me know what you think. If you are a single guy and you are going to complain then take that junk somewhere else because obviously you are one of the guys Perry is taking too.
I begin my days with a list of Blogs and pastors that I try to check out for encouragement, inspiration, and creativity. I use them as a way the Lord can show me what He is doing in other areas and that there are other ways that I can teach and lead as a husband, father, and pastor.
So with this last weekend full of our first Homecoming dance with my two oldest I really prayed that we would be able to walk through this and learn some things about being parents. I prayed especially for me as a Dad with daughters. You see I am the oldest of four kids and my sister is the youngest and we are 10 years a part. So I never experienced the dating stuff and the coming of age stuff so this has all been new and challenging for me. I know that I am learning new things everyday and I love it. But there are times that I get frustrated because I love my kids. I don’t want to see them get hurt and I don’t want to see them make mistakes like I did when I was there age. But I also know that I am responsible to do the best job possible, that I am not responsible for them that is God’s job. But sometimes I want to take that job, but I know that would be bad, very bad, very very bad. But this weekend we did learn some things and I did not pray very specific because they were not easy things to learn and they were not fun. Got to be more specific next time when I pray. But I know that through the hard and difficult times that God has a plan and that for us in the end we have grown, we are closer to each other, and the Lord because of our weekend. I love being a Dad and I love being a husband to wife that enables me to become better through these times when I am not sure what to do.
So I want all of you both male and female to think about the relationships that you are involved in. I want you to check out the video link when you click on the word “Beautiful”. It is part of a message series that Perry Noble is doing at NewSpring Church called “Beautiful”. I want you to think about what he shares when it comes to the crumbs.
Where are you at when it comes to sitting at the table of the Lord? Are you eating off the floor or are you experiencing the buffet? What is God teaching you about relationships and how they are based in Christ?
To my kids both in my home and in the church: don’t eat the crumbs! God has so much more for you.