It is so easy to be able to sit back and just buy a card. But when it comes to celebrating one of the greatest days of my life I don’t ever just want it to be easy. So here is a special gift to my bride on May 16th our 21st Anniversary.
I praise God for the woman who has made me better and stronger because she is in my life.
I recently read an article that was posted by a local news channel on twitter. It disturbed me!
Here is the cliff notes of the story (Read it here). There is a woman who has been a part of a movement of people who are trying to keep a local building from being torn down. So in an effort to save the building from being torn down this woman with the support of the people around here decides to marry the building. Now at first I thought this is interesting. But the more I thought about the more bothered I became that marriage today has become more of a punchline to a joke then a commitment that is to be made between a man and a woman to God.
Michelle and I will be celebrating 20 years of marriage in May. I don’t want one the best things in my life, my marriage to my best friend to be a punch line in a joke or a way to save a building from being destroyed. It is my hope that for the many of those of us that have had marriages that are a powerful statement to commitment and to marriage before God will continue to encourage those around us to see marriage as important. It is my hope that as we lead in our homes and in our commuities that people will see the joy that comes from a marriage that is based in God’s love for one another and a commitment to live together through the good and bad is important. Just a little fired up!
What do you think?
Today Michelle and I are driving our oldest Danielle to her first year of college. She will be attending the University of Nothern Colorado looking to get a degree in Elementary Education. She also will be moving away from home and her family for the first time. It is one of those moments as a parent that you realize that all the times that other parents said, “Life moves way fast.” Were totally right. But I have to be honest as Danielle’s dad I am so excited and so proud of who she is and how she has become such and awesome woman of faith. I know that at some moment today I am going to look at her and remember the times that we played on the swing set in Montana. The day that she laid in bed with her Mom and said “Yes” to Jesus. That I will remember the little girl that liked to play dress up. That I will see the little soccer player. That I will remember the first time she went to a school dance. That I will remember the day I was proud to baptize her. That I will remember the days that she sat on my lap and cried her eyes out. That I will remember the times we shared her Christian crack addiction at Starbucks. But all of these memories will not wiegh me down. They will encourage the perspective that I already have about being a parent and the goal that I set a long time ago as Jesus laid it on my heart. That my job as a dad is that my kids “Leave Well.” Danielle is leaving well and I do not expect anything less. I am so proud and excited to see what the near future holds for her at UNC.
Danielle if you read this; I want you to know that I am one proud dad and that I am only a phone call, text, Skype, away. Oh yeah, continue to remind the guys around you that I still have the bow and they will not hear it coming. LOVE YOU.
Since many of you shared how much you enjoyed the first video that Tyler made. He has chosen to bring you some more for St. Pat’s Day. I hope that you enjoy his video as much he enjoyed making it for you. This is another creative opportunity for me to really be proud of my kids and the way that they use their abilities. This one is really fun! Enjoy.
Over the summer I have been able to see my kids do some pretty awesome things. The decided one day to honor their mom for being their mom. There was no special reason just that they wanted to tell her how much they loved her. So with some creativity this is what they did for her.
They knew that their mother was in need of some care and this is what they chose to do for her. I was wondering what could you do for someone that may need it this week. But do it with some creativity and with some special attention that just that person needs.
I have to apologize for not being diligent with making posts for the BLOG this last week. Michelle and I were at a church planters assessment here in Northern California for Stadia West. Along with three other couples we spent time working together, meeting with church leaders, and sharing our stories along with vision for what we see the Lord leading us to do in church planting. It was an amazing time we were able to meet some incredible people that are planning to do some really cool ministry. There is Ray and Ruth that are looking to do ministry in Compton, CA meeting the needs of the community that the Lord has placed them in. Then there was Jeff and Melany they are a part of a creative ministry where they are doing church through a coffee shop and art in Omaha, NE. Finally we met Angel and Diana they are planning on starting a church in a town on the Arizona and Mexico border. Each couple with a vision to bring Jesus to different communities using different plans to accomplish it. What an amazing time to be starting a church. What an opportunity to share with others what God has placed on our hearts as we plan to move to Colorado to start a church. I ask that you pray for these couples as they too seek the Lord in every step of the way in starting new churches.
So this is what the family does on Saturday nights when there is nothing going on. We are always looking to have fun:
Please don’t laugh when my wife says “I act like a girl!” It really hurt.
We as the Bloyer family would like to thank all of those that have made the choice to serve our country and gave their life for our freedom.
Today I have the awesome opportunity to celebrate 17 years of marriage to my beautiful wife Michelle. We have walked through seasons of babies being born (oldest two are only 10 months apart), moving from state to state, living with my family while I was going to school, to a new adventure of starting a church, having teenagers driving, and moving again. I have to say that without a doubt I could have not become the man that God wanted me to be with out her love, care, and encouragement. She was exactly what I need in a wife, mother to our kids, and my best friend. I am so thankful that the good Lord has loaned her to me for the time that we have had together, so far. I know that as we continue on in this new season of life that there will be new and exciting challenges, but with the Lord in my heart and my bride by my side I can not wait.
Michelle you are the example of what Proverbs 12: 4a “A worthy wife is her husbands joy and crown”. I am so blessed to have you in my life and to have you as my wife. I pray for the day that our daughters grow up to be wives and mothers, because they had a great example in you.
I love you, thank you for a great 17 years.
Today 12 years ago at about 11:00 AM in the morning we were blessed to have Morgan Isabella Bloyer. Michelle and I on that day were so excited to see what we were going to have. We had tried to find out but she was just to tough to get a good picture of so that we could to tell. It was amazing Michelle was in labor all night long and when I woke the next morning she looked at me with this intense face and said we need to get to the hospital now. ( that was the mild G version) So I was able to be one of those husbands that drove like a made man to the hospital in Denver. I even made a right hand turn from the left hand turn lane across three lanes of traffic to get to the hospital. I think Michelle did make the comment that she wanted to arrive alive.
I want everyone to know that as a father I have been blessed with each of the kids and I have to always remember that they are just on loan to their mother and I from God. But Morgan brings a smile to my face she knows how to snuggle with her daddy. She brings joy to our hearts every time she begins to sing in the back of the car she has such a gift. Her heart for the underdog is incredible and she is always looking to help in some way. For the record she pretty much has her brother wrapped around her finger. Thank you Lord for allowing us to enjoy the time that we have had with her so far we look to the future with much anticipation and joy.
George I love you!
I love hanging out with my family. They know how to have fun no matter what is going on. I had just finished barbecuing dinner for mother’s day, we ate, the dishes were clean. So I went to the back of the house to do a little reading. When I came out this is what I found going on in the living room. I want you all to know that yes I like sports and yes I like competition, but there is one person in the house that is way more competitive them me.
I am telling you don’t mess with my bride she will “Dominate”, notice she said, “Going for the kill”. I was scared for the kids. What fun, what a great woman, and I am so blessed to have this woman be the mother of our children. I love you Michelle.
What fun things do you do as a family in the house?
SacrificiAl living means you cannot out give or out do God
Did you know that in the Bible God actually says, “Try it! Let me prove it to you” He only says it once and it only is referring to one area of our lives. Want to know what area that is? It is in the area of our finances, yep that’s right our money. In Malachi 3: 8 – 12 God is telling his people through a prophet that they have cheated him of their tithes and offerings. That they have not been giving God what he had told them to give. He goes on to say that they need to bring in the whole tithe into the storehouse of the God. He says that once you do that then, “I will open the windows of heaven for you. I will pour out a blessing so great that you won’t have enough room to take it in! Try it! Let me prove it to you.”
Now I know many people automatically are saying here we go the church has not even started and Scott is talking about money. See I always knew that the church just wanted my money. What I want to say to that is “If you think that is all that I am about or that Jesus us about then you are a MORON!” Of course the church is going to talk about money. Why wouldn’t we Jesus did and I personally think that the church today is way to soft when it comes to this area. I mean Jesus went so far to say in Matthew 6:24 “That no one can serve two masters. For you will hate the one and love the other, or be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” Unfortunately today a lot of people today make money their God and the God of the Bible is suppose to get the leftovers on Sunday, physically, finacially, and emotionally.
For me this gets really touchy because I really don’t care all that much about money. If I have it that is great, if I don’t well whatever we can have fun without it. But the problem is now as a church leader I really need to set the example when it comes to this area, not that I didn’t before. Michelle and I have always made sure that we were tithing to the church that were involved in. In fact we used to have arguments when we first got married over if we do our tithe or payed a bill. In my mind God always came first and the others would be taken care of. I thought that way long before I read the verse in Malachi, which I have to say was very confirming to me. Michelle and I have been married 17 years on May 16th and we have never starved, all though we were sick of PB&J’s after one season. We have never been without a roof over our head and our kids have always been taken care of in many ways. I say that because Michelle and I have made a commitment to give our regular tithe to the church we are currently serving at and we are going to give another 5% percent to Elevation Community Church. We want to model what Jesus has called us to live, sacrificial lives. It has nothing to do with the exact amount it has to do with giving from our hearts where it becomes a sacrifice. Jesus talks about a widow in Luke 21: 1 – 4 and He says, “but she, as poor as she is, has given everything she has.” This widow was the example that we have been given when it comes to sacrificial giving and living.
When it comes to your life how does sacrificial living play a part?
We are a family that because I work at a church always enjoys spending the day at the church for Easter. My kids have shared that some of their best memories are when we are all working together during these services. Because we are at the church from early until late then Michelle has always left the church early to go and hide Easter eggs so that they kids were surprised when they got home from being at church. With them all being older and not wanting to hide all the Easter Eggs and they also made the comment that they were to easy to find this year Michelle decided to hide just nine eggs and she hid them hard. She hid them so hard that she was worried that she would forget where she put them so she made a note for where all the eggs were placed. This is the note that she made:
That is how awesome my wife is, never want to have a hidden egg go bad on you. We even needed to use the notes because the kids couldn’t find them all. Don’t tell mom that it was to easy or she will bring it. Had a great Easter, will be posting more pictures and even a video.
What Easter stories do you have to tell?
Ok, I have to talk about this because it is so freaking hilarious. Last night as I was working on the computer and watching a movie about 1:00AM I was surprised to have one of my kids get up. This does not happen to often and when it does it usually means someone is sick or bad dreams. But this one was different, the child that was up and walking around decided to take a shower. It was one in the freaking morning who takes a shower? So being the person I am I went and woke-up my wife and asked if this was normal behavior for a girl? You now know that it was not Tyler, edged out by the female comment. So Michelle got up and went in to ask the daughter what was going on. Much to Michelle’s surprise this person was getting ready to go to school. This is where it gets good. This girl then asked “Why was she asking?” Michelle informed her it was one in the morning. While still in the shower the person went dead silent, then began to laugh. ”I thought that it was time to get up I was dreaming that I was getting ready to go to school.” With that Michelle started laughing of course coming straight out to me with the funny information. Obviously Michelle went back to bed but I waited to comfort, make fun of this person. Now this is where I hope you figure out which one of the girls this was, she came out and told me she was going to blow dry her hair at one in the morning so she could look good for school. (Morgan is not totally there yet, I say yet.) Danielle was so hilarious that I could not stop laughing, in fact at 2:00AM when I went to bed laying there I started to laugh again. You know that you are in a routine of getting ready for school when you get up and take a shower because you are dreaming about going to school.
I love my daughter she is truly a joy, and if I was in the South I would probably say to her, “Bless your little heart.”
It has been a slow process of seeking what the Lord wanted for our family. It was about three years ago that I was encouraged by another pastor to be a church planter. But I was unsure and chose not to follow on that path, but it has always been there in the back of my mind. I was then encouraged later to even think about leading a church re-start. Again I felt that it was not time for me to be able to take that step. So we continued to follow after what God had for us in the Student Ministry. We have seen God do amazing things in the lives of students and through the student ministry leaders that we have worked with over the years.
It was this last October that I really felt a “Holy Discontent” with myself and what I was doing. It had nothing to do with the church leaders or staff that I am working with it was something stirring in my spirit. So on October 8th I wrote this “Lord as I sit here I struggle with doing what I feel called to do in church planting and bringing my wife along slowly to this place.” But God was already at work during the time between this journal entry and me talking to Michelle. She had been talking on-line to several friends that were living in Colorado and having conversations about Christ and their involvement in church. She was feeling more and more the need for something to happen in the Parker/Aurora area.
When I came to Michelle to tell her about what I was feeling she gave me that uncomfortable smile. It said, “I feel the same way but I am terrified” with that I asked her to pray about it and we continue to talk about what we heard God saying to each other. It was after much prayer and discussion that we both decided that we needed to involve in our kids. So we sat down one night during our family meeting talked to the kids about what we felt God leading us to do. It is so amazing to hear your kids speak about what they see God doing and how they feel about following His lead. We all decided that we needed to pray about it and discuss it.
It was on New Years Eve that each one of the kids made at least one comment each about starting a church and how excited they were at the opportunity. So on New Years day as I was sitting in the kitchen having my coffee and having some personal time with God. Michelle walked in and said, “So when are we doing this?” That was all I needed to hear. It has been since that day that I have been seeking God every step of the way and living with the word “terricited”. It is terrifying and exciting at same time.
I just wanted to share with you all something that my son Tyler did with my wife and daughter Morgan one night while they went shopping. He was suppose to go along and be a help to his mother but he did so much more. When he came home he was so excited that we sat down and edited the video right then and there on my MAC. Here is what the next Steven Spielberg came up with:
I will never look at Cake mix the same again. Please make sure that you thank the workers at Walmart for not kicking my kids butt while he ran around with his camera. There were no cake mixes hurt in the shooting of this video. Who knows maybe some day we all will be sitting down in a theatre watching this kids work. I know that would be a great place for him to be a witness to the world about who Christ is. I just wish that more people would see that you don’t have to go to a foreign land or work in a church to be a missionary. Each and every day Jesus gives us opportunities to be his ambassadors to the world right in our own front yard.
This week I had a couple come into my office just to say hi. But while they stood there they looked at some of the photos that I have on the wall of my family. In the center of the different photos I have a special framed couple of photos of my wife. In the center of the photos is the following verse:
Proverbs 5:18-19 (Msg) Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!  Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose— don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
The reason that I had this verse put with the photos is as a reminder for me to always challenge me to enjoy my wife. Now there are many ways that you can take ENJOY. Of course yes that means sexually, if you are a man reading this that is the first thing that you thought of. If you are saying: “No I didn’t “ then you are also lying. There really is so much more. Enjoy her smile, enjoy her laughter, enjoy her as a friend, enjoy her as a mother, enjoy her as she cries, enjoy her as someone that is needed in your life. But that means that you need to work at being the man that she needs. One of the steps that you can do to be that man is never take her for granted. Take the time to listen to her when she has been home with kids all day and you are the first real conversation she has had that day. Take the time to let her do something that she wants to do and that is just for her. Take the time to make sure that you do what makes her feel loved. That may mean that sex isn’t even in the picture. But for marriages to be what they need to be men need to not take their wives for granted. Today men need to step it up. Men take the time to enjoy. Thank you Michelle for allowing me to be your husband for the last 16 years.
What can you do today to enjoy your wife?
What steps can you take today to prepare to be a husband that enjoys his wife?